Being as I've been single for my entire life, at this point it would be safe for you to assume that my standards are higher than the Eiffel tower (probably even higher). Right now the only relationship I'm focusing on and trying to mend is the one with myself. With that being said however that doesn't mean I don't think about the future. That doesn't mean I don't have expectations and that doesn't mean I'm unaware of the impending disappointments. I'm learning to hold my happiness and the success of my future very highly and I do hope that someday I will have someone to share that with. This is a letter to my future best friend. This is a letter to tell you, if you're reading this, what it is I need from you.
Hello. This is Maire, probably a younger version than you're used to but still the same girl. This seems so strange to me, to be to someone in the future who is, hopefully, a person who cares about me deeply. It's not something I'm used to.
Anyway, I'm writing to you, whether we've been together for a while or we've only just started dating, to let you in on a few things. These may include some things you already know, depending on how perceptive you are, and some may be brand new. Sometimes I think I'm the type of person who's an open book. I trust. I trust fast and I trust easily. Then again people make assumptions based on my character and the type of person I am and that is my biggest pet peeve.
So this is for you. This is for you to keep in mind that you are with a person with a big heart. A person who takes things, big and small, deeply and personally. A person who falls hard for all people who come into her life. A person who puts everyone else before herself and a person who's never known what it's like to put her heart in someone else's hands. She needs you to be careful with her heart. She needs you to be patient with her. She needs you to be willing and to be happy to put up with her quirks and her various obsessions. She needs you to make her comfortable because for most of her life she's never felt completely herself around anyone. She needs you to know that she is aware that sometimes what seems rational in her head doesn't always end up logical when she says it out loud. She needs you to accept every little thing about her because otherwise, what's the point? She doesn't need you to fit the Hollywood mold of the perfect guy because she knows they don't actually exist. She just needs you to support her and in return she will do the same. She needs you to understand that everything about a relationship is all very new to her and she needs you to take things slow. If she's with you it means she likes you, and that's rare. There hasn't really been many that have caught her eye and the fact that you've gotten as far as you have means you must be worth her time. If your intentions are not to be faithful, fair and true to her then please do not drag this out. She is not about playing games, especially when it comes to her heart.
She's seen and heard a lot about what relationships are supposed to be like and what happens when they fall apart. She may be hesitant about everything initially because shes' scared so you're going to have to have patience. She wants everything to turn out okay and she wants to be happy.
That's all for now. Please be good to her, that's all I ask.
Never forget the essence of your spark!